Opposite Sex Friends Bad For Relationships

Why is it a bad idea to be friends with the opposite sex while in a serious relationship?

No one likes to be told who to be friends with. As a teen, you didn’t like when your parents said “You can’t be friends with that person”. And now as an adult, you don’t like for your partner to say it either. But let’s be serious about this situation. Is it really worth ruining the relationship you have with the person you love? If you really love the person, why ruin the relationship over someone who is supposed to be a friend?

True friends don’t ruin their friend’s relationship. A true friend understands their spot is not before your significant other. And we must understand who comes in the first place spot…

Our friends comes before our acquaintances…our best friend comes before our friends…As we get married and have a family, our new family comes before our old family (parents, siblings, cousins, etc) And for the new modern family, your kids comes before your partner until you and your partner get married. Then together the partner and the kids becomes one whole family. And with that being said, the whole family then becomes first in your life.

This doesn’t mean that you are putting yourself last or you are not to care for anyone else. This just means that when a decision is to be made, you will make the choice for one before you chose for the other. Through love, everyone is supposed to know their spot. And even though through their own selfishness it may hurt their feelings when you don’t choose them first, you can’t let that one selfish emotion decide for you.

So why is opposite sex friends a problem?

To first understand the issue, you must understand the psychology of the situation. It has been known that people are attracted to someone the more they are around the person. We all at some point in time been around someone who has done someone that annoyed us but the more we were around the person, the more it didn’t bother us. We got used to it maybe even learned to ignore it to look closer at the actual person. When it comes down to an opposite sex friend, you already have that friendship bond. Whatever has you not wanting that person as a mate, through time, you will grow to ignore it. And it won’t take much because the chemistry is already there.

Of course you may say you know how to not cross the line of friendship. But if you is serious about your relationship, why risk it? When you chose a person to be your mate, you more than likely chosen that person because you can tell that person anything, you can lay your head on their shoulder…there’s no need to need another opposite sex friend because this person is the ultimate one. And if the person isn’t the ultimate one, then the relationship was bound to fail because your heart and mind will still be in search for that one person.

Yes we all know that if your partner loves you they should love you enough to trust you to do the right thing. But trust doesn’t think the same way because trust knows that if you keep hanging around that person it’s just a matter of time before you start to get a connection; maybe not physically but emotionally. Unlike friendship, once trust is gone it’s gone forever.

So if you love your partner, then you should love them enough to do what it takes to keep their trust. And if your friends love you, then they should love you enough to step back to give your mate the spot light in your life. And if they can’t give your relationship that little of respect, then maybe they aren’t real friends.

Love???

Where do love stand in 2011? Where will it be ten years from now?

When you think of love what do you think about? A chemistry between two lovers that is never ending and forever lasting, carrying on through time as they are happily enjoying their lives together? Do you often find yourself wishing or even longing for that kind of chemistry but yet feel as if something so romantic will never come your way?

Maybe you even seek love. Constantly bouncing from one person to the next hoping for that day you find that one that carries this love you are after. Or is love just a thing of the past? Is there a new form of love that only exists between the sheets?

Is the new trend of love is to cheat on the one you love where being faithful to one person no longer exist because love is now viewed as chemistry shared within the intercourse of one another?

All these questions arise now. Not only between adults but more so between teenagers and young adults. The value of relationship is declining as more people spend additional time deceiving one another. Pretending to love faithfully or even care truly for each other while cheating behind one’s back with another mate.

The meaning of love is slowly fading as people are constantly accepting poor behavior because they are scared of being alone; scared to move on to something new even though that something new could be something better.

I’m starting this blog to have an area to discuss the topics that exist now-a-days within the word love. And if you are interested, keep in touch because more will be posted…